The quiet power of self compassion and forgiveness
We often give others the benefit of the doubt... but rarely extend it to ourselves.
We forgive people who’ve hurt us, overlooked us, disappointed us, but struggle to release the weight of our own mistakes, regrets, or emotional reactions.
This is where self-compassion comes in.
Not as a weakness. Not as an excuse.
But as a powerful, healing force that says:
“I am allowed to be a work in progress.”
What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion is not just “being nice to yourself.”
It’s an intentional practice of meeting yourself with kindness when things feel messy.
It’s giving yourself the same grace you would offer a loved one in pain.
It sounds like:
“I didn’t handle that perfectly, but I’m still growing.”
“I made a mistake, but I am not my mistake.”
“I deserve patience, even from myself.”
The Truth About Forgiveness
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting.
It doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt, or rushing the healing process.
True self-forgiveness is:
Accepting that you did the best you could with what you knew at the time
Recognizing the patterns that caused harm and choosing to break them
Allowing yourself to move forward without dragging the past behind you
You do not owe the old version of yourself a life sentence.
You can grieve, grow, and still choose peace.
Written by: Alysia Heard
